Do you feel like you’re not being heard by your partner? Or not appreciated?
Is there an issue surrounding a lack of faithfulness, money, being a parent, the in-laws, or work?
Is your relationship in trouble?
Are you feeling disconnected from your partner?
Or maybe you’d both just love to connect on a deeper level?
If you’re having trouble talking without fighting, struggling with communicating effectively or recovering from an affair, I can help. Remember what it was like when things were fun? The laughs and happy memories you made together. I want to support you in finding your way back to love and connection. I am an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist and specialize in working with both heterosexual and LGBTQ relationships. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is an evidence-based, scientifically-validated approach that moves couples from conflict and distance to connection, closeness, and intimacy.
EFT was developed by Dr. Sue Johnson. Based on attachment theory, EFT helps couples understand how adult love and adult relationships function and flourish. EFT identifies distress in a relationship as the result of a threat or rupture of the emotional bond between partners. When this occurs, couples are left with coping mechanisms that throw them into a negative cycle that highjacks the relationship and results in the emotional distance between the couple. Negative cycles often result in expressions of frustration, resentment, criticism, and anger. EFT helps couples identify and understand the choreography of the negative cycle that drives them apart and blocks the free flow of love, understanding and empathy between them. Once the “cycle” is clearly understood, EFT therapists help couples correctly identify each other’s emotional cues, safely and effectively express their needs, and ultimately discover a new way of reinforcing and strengthening the kind of secure emotional bond we all long for.
Whether aimed at addressing small issues or dealing with potentially relationship-breaking challenges, therapy can help you each feel valued, heard, and connected.
By encouraging honest, empathetic communication and using strategies and techniques that aid hearing, healing, and clarity, couples counseling becomes an empowering process for both you and your partner. If you would like me to show you how counseling could create lasting, positive change for you and your partner, please contact me today for an appointment.